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Kiddos
Apr 30, 2012 23:35:19 GMT -6
Post by Peppa on Apr 30, 2012 23:35:19 GMT -6
Agh I've recently been toying with the idea of maybe one day having kids.. Which is a real shock to me as I've always said I didn't want them. Some of you may not know that I'm HIV+ so obviously this is abit of an obstacle... But there are ways apparently. I just need to want them enough. Definatly not at the moment... I've got too many thing going on and stuff I still want to do, and although I'm drug free at the moment, it's still a daily battle and wouldn't be fair to bring a child into the world.. Saying that I'm not even sure it's fair to the child to be born to a + parent? Dan!! Why have you never said before? How long have you known? Oh man, this upsets me! Hope you're ok!  Well I think it would be a good idea to keep doing all the things that you want to do in life, you're still young! Keep yourself stable and happy, you don't want the stress of a child you push you back into what you're trying so hard to leave behind. Xx See, but to some people, having a child in their life isn't considered such a stressful thing. You have figure out what is best for yourlife. Not what someone else thinks is best for you. With technology going the way it is, people are living long and healthy lives even though they are HIV+. Life is what you make it!!! And yes, Drama has overcome huge obstacles in his life. But that just shows that he is strong enough! Drama, wow... have we been friends THAT long!?!?!?! I remember when you first told me. I worried about you so much. And for good reason sometimes. But, I am so proud of where you are today. |
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Kiddos
May 1, 2012 1:29:46 GMT -6
Post by dramalogy on May 1, 2012 1:29:46 GMT -6
Yea we must have known each other for about 7 years now... How crazy is that?!
I'm ever so sorry I didn't let you know, Emz. Hardly anyone knows. Actually more people know these days as ive come I terms with it and don't feel "ashamed" of it and realise it part of who I am. Embrace it!!.. As much as I possible, I suppose. I even hid it from my Mum for abou a year.
I feel good about telling you guys though. I've always had a real problem with accepting support as I believed I could sort it out on my own.. But it was blatently obvious i couldn't so sought help from professionals and went to a young persons support group, and it's helped hugely!!
I caught it via heterosexual sex (which surprises a lot of people, lol) and the girl just so happened to be an IV heroin user.. Stupidly I didn't wear a condom. Doh! A friend of mine also tested positive who had slept with this girl, do to be honest I'm not really sure who it actually came from.. But it was obviously one of us. It's not important who I got it from though.. Not now.its about dealing with it and gettin in with my life. I've realised it win stop me from achieving ANYTHING.. Where as 5 years ago, even just a couple of years ago, I literally thought my life was over.
Everything is good now though. Im in treatment and will be for the rest of my days. I take Atropla which is 3 dugs combined into 1 pill, just once a day which is better than what I thought.. I was convinced I was gonna have to take handfuls of pills several times a day. At the moment the HIV virus is undetectable in my blood and my CD4 count is creeping back up which means my immune system is recovering and getting stronger :-)
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Kiddos
May 1, 2012 1:35:42 GMT -6
Post by Peppa on May 1, 2012 1:35:42 GMT -6
Everything is good now though. Im in treatment and will be for the rest of my days. I take Atropla which is 3 dugs combined into 1 pill, just once a day which is better than what I thought.. I was convinced I was gonna have to take handfuls of pills several times a day. At the moment the HIV virus is undetectable in my blood and my CD4 count is creeping back up which means my immune system is recovering and getting stronger :-) So great to hear!! |
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Kiddos
May 1, 2012 9:07:25 GMT -6
Post by ashleyaskew on May 1, 2012 9:07:25 GMT -6
Yea we must have known each other for about 7 years now... How crazy is that?! I'm ever so sorry I didn't let you know, Emz. Hardly anyone knows. Actually more people know these days as ive come I terms with it and don't feel "ashamed" of it and realise it part of who I am. Embrace it!!.. As much as I possible, I suppose. I even hid it from my Mum for abou a year. I feel good about telling you guys though. I've always had a real problem with accepting support as I believed I could sort it out on my own.. But it was blatently obvious i couldn't so sought help from professionals and went to a young persons support group, and it's helped hugely!! I caught it via heterosexual sex (which surprises a lot of people, lol) and the girl just so happened to be an IV heroin user.. Stupidly I didn't wear a condom. Doh! A friend of mine also tested positive who had slept with this girl, do to be honest I'm not really sure who it actually came from.. But it was obviously one of us. It's not important who I got it from though.. Not now.its about dealing with it and gettin in with my life. I've realised it win stop me from achieving ANYTHING.. Where as 5 years ago, even just a couple of years ago, I literally thought my life was over. Everything is good now though. Im in treatment and will be for the rest of my days. I take Atropla which is 3 dugs combined into 1 pill, just once a day which is better than what I thought.. I was convinced I was gonna have to take handfuls of pills several times a day. At the moment the HIV virus is undetectable in my blood and my CD4 count is creeping back up which means my immune system is recovering and getting stronger :-) Im not sure what to say to this except that I am very happy you have a working treatment plan. It must be really hard to see yourself getting past something so life changing but it is true that you are more than just an illness. although you will think about it daily it doesnt have to consume your days and you can still accomplish all the things you want to. You are incredibly strong! |
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Kiddos
May 3, 2012 13:36:34 GMT -6
Post by wendytcake on May 3, 2012 13:36:34 GMT -6
Dan!! Why have you never said before? How long have you known? Oh man, this upsets me! Hope you're ok! Well I think it would be a good idea to keep doing all the things that you want to do in life, you're still young! Keep yourself stable and happy, you don't want the stress of a child you push you back into what you're trying so hard to leave behind. Xx See, but to some people, having a child in their life isn't considered such a stressful thing. You have figure out what is best for yourlife. Not what someone else thinks is best for you. With technology going the way it is, people are living long and healthy lives even though they are HIV+. Life is what you make it!!! And yes, Drama has overcome huge obstacles in his life. But that just shows that he is strong enough! Drama, wow... have we been friends THAT long!?!?!?! I remember when you first told me. I worried about you so much. And for good reason sometimes. But, I am so proud of where you are today. Peppa: I am unsure if you took my comments the wrong way or I am reading your reply in the wrong way but in no way was I trying to tell Dan what to do. And I know that most people who want a child won't find it stressful and enjoy every second. I never doubted or commented on what he can and cannot do being HIV + and I know that medicine is making great advances so it hopefully won't be a big problem for him day to day. We all know Dan is strong to overcome all he has but I still worry about him and every day for the past many years I have worried about him and thought i should have done more being in the same country and all and expected to hear the worst news. Although I've never met Dan, he/you have a special place in my heart and nothing will stop me worrying about you. I am so proud he is where he is today (just wish he had been a good boy and done it years ago!  )  Dan: I don't know how I would deal with something like that and to tell people and come to terms with yourself is very courageous. I just hope you find the right person who will accept you as you are and can go on to have the family you want. I am so glad to hear that you are keeping healthy and well! I was in a state of shock reading your comment! Love you! |
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Kiddos
May 4, 2012 3:01:57 GMT -6
Post by Peppa on May 4, 2012 3:01:57 GMT -6
No Emz, I didn't take it the wrong way. I was simply stating my opinion on the matter. No harm done sweetie!
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Kiddos
May 4, 2012 17:29:55 GMT -6
Post by shedaytrips on May 4, 2012 17:29:55 GMT -6
Ayden and Averie  |
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Kiddos
May 4, 2012 22:40:33 GMT -6
Post by Peppa on May 4, 2012 22:40:33 GMT -6
^So sweet!!!! It's been almost a year... but I will never forget when Ayden swallowed water from the pool. Haaaahahahaha, such a lil drama king. Joe "What do you drink that comes out of the faucet?" Ayden, gagging himself "Water" Joe "OK then, what is your problem?" Ayden, still gagging "I dunno"  And now that I have a new job, I will have every other Sunday off!! So, you know what that means?? We gonna have to get together again! |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 0:24:58 GMT -6
Post by salt on May 5, 2012 0:24:58 GMT -6
I think everyone deserves their happily ever after, no matter what the situation. If having a child is going to give you your happily ever after, I say do it. You only have this life.  |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 1:51:29 GMT -6
Post by dramalogy on May 5, 2012 1:51:29 GMT -6
See, but to some people, having a child in their life isn't considered such a stressful thing. You have figure out what is best for yourlife. Not what someone else thinks is best for you. With technology going the way it is, people are living long and healthy lives even though they are HIV+. Life is what you make it!!! And yes, Drama has overcome huge obstacles in his life. But that just shows that he is strong enough! Drama, wow... have we been friends THAT long!?!?!?! I remember when you first told me. I worried about you so much. And for good reason sometimes. But, I am so proud of where you are today. Peppa: I am unsure if you took my comments the wrong way or I am reading your reply in the wrong way but in no way was I trying to tell Dan what to do. And I know that most people who want a child won't find it stressful and enjoy every second. I never doubted or commented on what he can and cannot do being HIV + and I know that medicine is making great advances so it hopefully won't be a big problem for him day to day. We all know Dan is strong to overcome all he has but I still worry about him and every day for the past many years I have worried about him and thought i should have done more being in the same country and all and expected to hear the worst news. Although I've never met Dan, he/you have a special place in my heart and nothing will stop me worrying about you. I am so proud he is where he is today (just wish he had been a good boy and done it years ago! ) Dan: I don't know how I would deal with something like that and to tell people and come to terms with yourself is very courageous. I just hope you find the right person who will accept you as you are and can go on to have the family you want. I am so glad to hear that you are keeping healthy and well! I was in a state of shock reading your comment! Love you! Awe hun that's so sweet.. Know that you are very special to me too :-) but ya know, you live all the way up north at one end of the country and I'm as far south as u can get, so please don't feel bad about "not doing anything" your kind words mean a lot :* |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 7:36:45 GMT -6
Post by wendytcake on May 5, 2012 7:36:45 GMT -6
Shedaytrips: Have Ayden and Averie bonded well? They look like they get on like brother and sisters would!
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 21:25:41 GMT -6
Post by shedaytrips on May 5, 2012 21:25:41 GMT -6
^So sweet!!!! It's been almost a year... but I will never forget when Ayden swallowed water from the pool. Haaaahahahaha, such a lil drama king. Joe "What do you drink that comes out of the faucet?" Ayden, gagging himself "Water" Joe "OK then, what is your problem?" Ayden, still gagging "I dunno" And now that I have a new job, I will have every other Sunday off!! So, you know what that means?? We gonna have to get together again! Sweet! Now we can finally do the zoo trip! |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 21:27:15 GMT -6
Post by shedaytrips on May 5, 2012 21:27:15 GMT -6
Shedaytrips: Have Ayden and Averie bonded well? They look like they get on like brother and sisters would! They act just like they grew up together. I think it helps that they really don't deal with our exes a lot. Makes for a closer family. |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 22:47:02 GMT -6
Post by Peppa on May 5, 2012 22:47:02 GMT -6
^So sweet!!!! It's been almost a year... but I will never forget when Ayden swallowed water from the pool. Haaaahahahaha, such a lil drama king. Joe "What do you drink that comes out of the faucet?" Ayden, gagging himself "Water" Joe "OK then, what is your problem?" Ayden, still gagging "I dunno" And now that I have a new job, I will have every other Sunday off!! So, you know what that means?? We gonna have to get together again! Sweet! Now we can finally do the zoo trip! We just went to the zoo! I wanna do the children's museum. Something yall might want to do with us? |
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Kiddos
May 5, 2012 22:58:27 GMT -6
Post by ashleyaskew on May 5, 2012 22:58:27 GMT -6
Ayden and Averie those smiles make me smile! adorable! |
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